The festive season, often marked by holidays like Christmas, Hanukkah, or New Year’s, is associated with being a time of joy, togetherness and celebration. Typically families and friends will get together to exchange gifts, share meals, and create lasting memories. However, for many people, this time of year can bring with it a heightened sense of isolation.
In this article we look at the impact loneliness and isolation can have, especially during the festive period. We also share some tried and tested ways of finding connection and accessing support.
The invisible struggle
Loneliness is very common. According to the latest Health Survey for England, 22% of people say they feel lonely at least some of the time, and as many as 6% say they often or always feel lonely.
Loneliness is a complex emotion, and it can be experienced differently from person to person. For some, it may stem from the absence of family or friends, while for others, it may be a result of geographical separation, major life changes, financial constraints or due to the recent loss of a loved one.
On top of this, the pressure to conform to societal expectations at this time of year can end up making people feel even lonelier.
The emotional toll
Loneliness and isolation can significantly affect mental and emotional wellbeing. It’s not just about being physically alone; it’s about feeling disconnected and unsupported. Feelings of sadness, depression and anxiety can often intensify during this time, and festive reminders, such as decorations and songs may cause some people to feel emotionally triggered.
Positive coping strategies
If you find yourself feeling lonely during the festive season, know that you are not the only one. Below are some positive steps you can try to help nurture your social connections and access support.
- Reach out to others: While it may seem a little daunting, taking the initiative to reach out to others can help reduce feelings of loneliness. Try reaching out to friends and family, perhaps someone you have not heard from in a while. You can also connect with others using online communities such as Meetup, Sofa Singers and online book club. Some charities also run online communities, such as Side by Side by Mind, a forum by Scope, and Macmillan’s Online Community. Gingerbread also run groups for single parents. If you are looking for a way to meet others while keeping active, there is also Parkrun which can help foster local connections.
If you need to speak to someone, you can also call the Samaritans 24/7 helpline for free on 116 123 where a Samaritan will listen without judgement and offer emotional support. - Volunteer: A sense of purpose and fulfilment can be found in helping others during the festive period. Volunteering at local shelters or community organisations can offer a chance to connect with like-minded individuals, feel part of something bigger and make a positive impact on society. The NHS, Do-It and the Salvation Army are just some of the organisations that run great volunteering programmes.
- Self-care: It’s crucial to look after yourself during challenging times. Although it may be tricky, try to prioritise things such as sleep, regular physical activity and eating a healthy balanced diet to support your mental and physical health. Engaging in activities that bring joy and relaxation can also help to manage symptoms, such as reading, listening to music, painting and practicing mindfulness. Try to be kind to yourself, and take it at your own pace.
Supporting others
For those who are fortunate to have a circle of loved ones around them, it’s important to be mindful of those who may be experiencing loneliness. Extending an invitation, making a phone call or checking in on a neighbour are small gestures that can make a world of difference to someone feeling isolated.
Further support
Mind – Tips for managing loneliness.
Campaign to End Loneliness – List of supportive helplines.
Cruse – Grief and loneliness.
PayPlan – Debt and loneliness.
Carr Gomm – Support for loneliness in Scotland.
Mind Out – Support for LGBTQ+.
Re-engage – Activities for older people in need of companionship.
EAP Helpline – If you have access, an EAP helpline can also offer guidance and support.
If you are struggling and need professional help, make an appointment with your GP.
This information was published November 2023.
