World Suicide Prevention Day falls on 10th September each year, and raises awareness on how individuals, communities and organisations can help reduce the rate of suicide.
It’s a myth that asking someone if they’re suicidal causes harm – in reality, it could save their life. Understanding and carefully choosing our language can help to reduce stigma, prevent triggering vulnerable individuals, promote empathy, and build a supportive trusted environment.
Signs that someone might not be okay
Many people struggle to cope at one point in their lives whether this is with stress, anxiety or depression. Reaching out to someone could help them know someone cares, that they are valued, and help them access the support they need.
Everyone copes and reacts in their own way, but here are some general signs where someone’s mental health may be declining:
- Feeling restless, agitated, angry, aggressive, or tearful
- Lacking energy
- Not wanting to talk and be alone
- Change of mood over several weeks
- No interest in activities they usually enjoy
- Using substances such as alcohol and drugs to deal with feelings
- Finding it hard to cope with day-to-day tasks
- Being distant
- Talking about feeling worthless or hopeless
- Seeing no light at the end of the tunnel
- Change in appetite
- Talking about feeling trapped by life circumstances
Initiating conversations
Initiating conversations with someone that may be struggling with their mental wellbeing can really make a difference and although it may be uncomfortable initially, it really could help the individual open up and even save someone’s life.
Here are some practical ways to support you in initiating a conversation:
- “How are you?”, “I’ve noticed you don’t seem yourself, so I wanted to double check you are OK”
- Tell them you care
- Speak in a confidential environment avoiding busy occasions
- Use open questions to allow the individual to open up
- Listen carefully
- Keep eye contact
- Be patient
- Appear confident
- Reassure and do not pass judgement
- Acknowledge what is being said with nods and gestures
- Identify who can help the person and provide them with supportive resources
- If you are worried about someone, ask them if they feel suicidal
- Refrain from descriptions of suicide
Asking an individual if they are suicidal is important if you are concerned. If they confirm they aren’t suicidal this is reassuring but do listen to their worries and concerns to provide a listening ear and to see if you can offer support.
If they are feeling suicidal, signpost them to their GP or if there is imminent threat, the quickest way to get help is to call 999. Always check in with the individual the next day to show your ongoing support.
Summary
The language we use in discussions about suicide prevention is powerful and can have a profound impact on those affected by suicidal thoughts. By having open conversations and choosing our words carefully we contribute to a culture that prioritises mental health and works actively to prevent suicide.
Further support
Samaritans – Call 116 123 to speak to a Samaritan, who can offer emotional support to anyone in distress.
NHS – You can call 111 for mental health support and advice that’s not urgent.
Mind – Mental health support and resources.
Shout – You can text “SHOUT” to 85258 for free from all major UK mobile networks. You’ll then be connected to a volunteer for an anonymous conversation by text message.
PAPYRUS – Offers support to young people aged 35 and under, or to those caring for someone who is. You can contact their 24/7 confidential phone service ‘HOPELINE247’ on 0800 068 4141 or send a text message to 88247.
Employee Assistance Programme (EAP) – If your organisation has an EAP in place, you can also contact this helpline for support.
Sources
https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/supporting-someone-else-their-mental-health
https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/our-work/public-engagement/suicide-prevention
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/helping-someone-else/supporting-someone-who-feels-suicidal/about-suicidal-feelings/
https://www.samaritans.org/support-us/campaign/world-suicide-prevention-day/
Ref: WPW0309 this information was created August 2024.
